Life Without Jealousy: A Practical Guide
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# Ask yourself… Do you feel the need to be frequently checking up on your partner?
# Are you suspicious when you meet new people?
# Do you often question your partner about where they are going and who they are seeing?
# Do you withdraw from your partner without giving an explanation as to why you doing this?
# Do you make all of the social arrangements for your partner’s life?
# Have you ever feigned illness to keep your partner at home?
# Are you frightened of being unable to survive without your partner?
# Do you examine on your partner’s phone records, emails, or text messages “just in case”?
# Do you put your partner down over small details or infractions of agreements?
If you answered YES to more than one of these questions, then this book is for you.
This is the book to help you overcome this unwanted emotion. You will embark on a journey to discover the many types of jealousy. You can use this book as a manua… More >>
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Lerrgoo
August 27th, 2010 at 7:55 pm #
I won this book thru Rebecca’s Reads. It is a practical guide in dealing with jealousy and the different forms of it. It is a very quick read with only 110 pages and has a lot of great information in it. I like all the quotes that are intermingled throughout the book. This book breaks down the different types of jealousy and how a person can overcome those negative thoughts. The author also includes both sides of the jealously component and how the other partner can overcome as well.
Rating: 4 / 5
RebeccasReads.com
August 27th, 2010 at 10:20 pm #
Reviewed by Enid Grabiner for [...] (11/09)
When I was in college, I outlined all my lectures and readings so I could easily go back and study those points of importance without being bogged down with extraneous detail. That is what this book is – a detailed outline and explanation of how jealousy and envy in a relationship can be recognized and dealt with. It is a step-by-step guide into the psychology behind the emotions and a program to change them.
This is a self-help manual developed to identify problems within a relationship and then empower the reader with skill exercises to overcome insecurities and emotions detrimental to the health of both the individual and the relationship. This book deals with much more than just jealousy. Many other emotions are recognized, actions and reactions are analyzed, goals and objectives are set and communication techniques are presented. Problem solving techniques are introduced to help restructure relationships. Quotes are sprinkled throughout the text giving additional inspiration.
This is a goal oriented approach to self awareness and healing. In order for it to work, the individual must first recognize that there is a problem. He must then look for help. If one-on-one therapy is not available or affordable, this guide is the next best alternative in getting rehabilitation. It is easy to follow and understand, but the onus is on the individual to follow the road to recovery. Like self-taught language instruction, practice is essential.
I think it is important that an individual recognizes that a relationship is a partnership. It is unfair to expect reform to be one-sided. For health and happiness in a relationship there needs to be a cooperative effort by all parties concerned. It requires mutual respect and understanding to begin the healing process. So the answer is: Buy two books!
Rating: 5 / 5
Lauri C. Coates
August 27th, 2010 at 10:56 pm #
Life Without Jealousy: A Practical Guide
Author: Lynda Bevan
Publisher: Loving Healing Press
ISBN: 978-1-932690-85-9
Anyone who has ever been involved in a relationship, whether it’s friendship or romance, has probably experienced jealousy. There are many forms of jealousy, all of them unwanted and uncomfortable, regardless of the cause. The author, Lynda Bevan discusses the various type of jealousy, where they come from and how to handle them; whether you are the jealous person or the one who is the reciepent of jealousy.
This book is part of an excellent ongoing series from Loving Healing Press; the 10 Step Empowerment Series, practical guides written by experienced therapists for solving life’s problems.
The book is written in a style that is both interesting and easy to understand. Regardless of the reader’s knowledge of psychology, it is user friendly and educational. From the broadest definitions of jealousy and envy, the book then delves more deeply into the many forms jealousy takes: sexual, romantic, possessive, emotional, financial and material among others. The psychology of jealousy is explained, as well the differences of the sexes in how they feel and handle jealousy, and the damage caused by jealous behavior. Causes are discussed in detail, and real workable solutions are offered to repair the damages.
Regardless of which side of jealousy you find yourself on, help is available in this book. Highly recommended by this reviewer.
Rating: 5 / 5
Rebby
August 28th, 2010 at 1:04 am #
Your mom may have been right when she told you there were no monsters under your bed, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be lurking inside your own head. If you find that you are frequently visited by a certain “green-eyed monster,” then it’s worth your time to take a look at Lynda Bevan’s book. You’ll be exposed to the information necessary to slay your jealous beast once and for all.
It didn’t take me long to realize how often I was getting attacked by the “green-eyed monster.” I finally got to the point where I had to ask myself if I was going to let this unpleasant thing run my life. Thankfully, I ran across Lynda Bevan’s book Life Without Jealousy. Don’t be fooled by how thin it is; these pages are full of helpful information to ward off constant fits of jealousy. Bevan eases the reader into the issue of jealousy by explaining exactly what the emotion is. She delves into the differences between jealousy and envy and provides examples that will really hit home.
What I enjoyed best about this book was its simplicity. It’s laid out in a clear, concise way. The language is not over-the-top with ridiculous vocabulary only six percent of the population uses, unlike many self-help books out there. Bevan gets straight to the heart of the matter and provides a definition of jealousy, its causes, and useful ways to combat it. The exercises are also simple. So simple, in fact, that you’ll be amazed you never thought of them yourself. However, when done repeatedly as advised by Bevan, I was really able to notice a difference in the frequency of my battles with jealousy.
As with most things, it takes a lot of repetition to make a lasting change, so don’t expect Bevan’s advice to work the first day. Confronting your jealousy issues will take some time and there is no quick fix. Bevan gives you all the tools and information you need to ultimately defeat all those nagging self-doubts that evolve into jealous rage. It’s my personal opinion that anyone who has jealousy and/or self-esteem issues will greatly benefit from this book.
Rating: 5 / 5
Reader Views
August 28th, 2010 at 1:59 am #
Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (3/09)
“Life Without Jealousy” is the fourth book in the 10-Step Empowerment series. It is a practical guide to help you to overcome jealousy. The first step in dealing with jealousy is learning to understand what it is and common reasons of why it occurs. For myself, I discovered that I most often encounter this negative emotion when I am feeling insecure because I feel my relationship is being threatened. Being aware of this will really help me recognize the signs earlier on, which in turn will help me deal with the emotion before I start back into my old negative patterns. Upon reflection, I realized that I would have benefited from ending relationships much sooner where my emotional needs were not being met.
I found the discussion on the difference between jealousy and envy to be very enlightening. I decided that I would no longer tell people that “I am jealous or envious” of something that they have, even if I mean it in a joking way. It really puts some negative emotions out there. I want to try to completely remove myself from these mindsets.
The third step in the program discusses over ten types of jealousy. For myself, I have always been most affected regarding relationship jealousy. It is wonderful that more types are discussed. This will allow everyone who is experiencing some form of jealousy to benefit from what they read in these pages. Also of great benefit are the introspective questions that are in each chapter. As I read the material, I gained a greater understanding of the subject, and then by contemplating the questions, I was able to see how the information applied to me. Beneficial, realistic suggestions are also offered. At the end of the book is an appendix with emergency contacts and a bibliography which readers can refer to for more information.
I truly feel that every individual who is dealing with issues of some form of jealousy will greatly benefit from reading “Life Without Jealousy” by Lynda Bevan. This includes people who are not jealous themselves but are being affected by others who are. Learning to understand it, overcome it, and gain effective new ways to communicate will greatly improve the quality of our lives.
Rating: 5 / 5